Marriage After a Baby

Everyone always says how after they had a baby, they fell even more in love with their husband. Now either they have a husband that has been around babies their whole life OR they are the biggest liars I have ever met in my life! Now don’t take this the wrong way, but after having my son, there were more days than not that I wanted to strangle my husband. First of all, his nipples are useless!! During those LONG nights of nursing I would get so frustrated with sleeping beauty on the couch! (I made him sleep on the couch because I couldn’t fall back asleep with his loud breathing.)

I will admit that a lot of the reasons I wanted to throat punch my husband after having my son could be my fault. I allowed him to create habits that drove me insane. Instead of teaching him how to do things, I just did them myself. My husband has never been around babies, let alone a newborn. This whole baby thing was brand new to him. He had never changed a diaper, put clothes on a tiny human, or anything! I’m sure that he realized if he “couldn’t” do something in a timely fashion or correctly, I would just take over and eventually stop asking. I will admit, he helped in other ways like making food, bringing me water while I nursed, and shopping for groceries, but since those were things he did even before baby, it felt like his life didn’t change. I was so sleep deprived the littlest thing would bug me.

Fast forward to when my son was 1.5 and I went back to work. On the days my husband didn’t work and I did, him and my son would have bonding days. The first few weeks when I would leave, my son would cry, but one day he was on the couch and just waved and said bye bye. It was at that moment, when I watched my son snuggling up to my husband, that I fell even more in love. These two have such a strong bond now that I am not always around. They are able to destroy the house together without me telling them not to.

Just yesterday, my son said his dada was his best friend. Even when I tried to trick him and ask if I was, he said no dada. It warms my heart knowing these two have their own special thing. I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was super nervous about it when my son was a baby. Watching them hang out and make up their own games has eased my mind.

I have a very good feeling that when we decided to have another, I may not want to karate chop my husband as much. (Lets be honest, moms will always find a reason to want to karate chop the dad) He now knows that newborns aren’t that fragile and he sure knows how to change a diaper. So ladies, if you feel like your husband isn’t much help with your newborn, just know that will pass and he will be so much better during the crazy toddler stage!

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